Found this while looking for a shrink - it could be expanded on the gender front, but hope it’s at least a good starting point for someone!
The therapist may not always answer the question, but you will get a sense of how they respond to you, even if you don’t get a direct answer.
Adapted from It’s Your Hour: a guide to queer-affirmative psychotherapy by Bettinger, M. Alyson Books, 2001.
Attitude Toward Queerness
- Do you believe in love between two people of the same sex?
- Do you believe that sexual orientation can or should be changed?
- Do you believe an openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender person can live a spiritually rich and satisfying life?
- Do you know of any happy and successful long-term same sex couples?
- How do you generally work with gay or lesbian people?
- What work have you done to understand your own anti-homosexual bias?
- What has been your training?
- What qualifications have you been awarded?
- What postgraduate training programmes have you completed?
- What specific training have you done to work with sexual minority clients?
- What reading have you done about gay psychology/therapy?
- When did you last attend a workshop/seminar on working with sexual minority clients?
- How long have you been practising counselling or psychotherapy?
- Where else have you worked besides your present position?
- What jobs or careers have you had besides being a therapist?
- What non-professional experiences have you had to qualify you for the work you are now doing?
Credentials and Professional Orientation
- Are you a member of any professional organisations?
- Which ones?
- Are you Accredited or Registered by any professional therapy associations?
- Have any complaints been filed against you with any professional ethics organisation?
- How do you describe your professional orientation to therapy?
- Which of the major schools of psychotherapy are the most attractive to you?
- Have you treated other people with problems similar to mine?
- How do you determine how often we should meet?
- Can you prescribe psychoactive medications if I need them?
- If not, do you work with a physician or a psychiatrist who can evaluate me and prescribed medication?
- Are you willing to consult with other mental health or medical professionals with whom I have worked?
- Do you consult with other professionals regarding individuals on your caseload?
- How do you safeguard my right to confidentiality in those situations?
- Are you willing or able to see my family members or life partner if that should seem necessary?
- If so, can or should I be present?
- Will you ever meet with them without my being present?
- Have you ever been sued for malpractice?
- What was the outcome of that lawsuit?
- What is your fee?
- Is there a sliding scale?
- If there is a sliding scale, how does it work?
- Are you able to accept medical insurance?
- How do you handle the paperwork?
- Do you, or do I, have to fill out the paperwork?
- What is your telephone availability?
- Do you encourage or discourage telephone contact between meetings?
- Do you personally identify as queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or questioning?
- Do you identify as being clean and sober?
- If so, are you in recovery?
- Do you attend any 12-step groups?
- What is your personal experience as a client in psychotherapy?
- How do you feel it benefited you?
Comfort and Chemistry (questions to ask yourself after the initial meeting)
- Did you feel understood?
- Did the therapist understand your reason for being there?
- Did you feel liked by the therapist?
- Did you like the therapist?
- Did you like his or her values?
- Did you agree with them?
- Did you have an initial feeling of trust in the therapist?
- Did the therapist appear to be sensitive to your feelings?
- Did you feel respected by the therapist?
- Did you feel he or she was treating you as an equal?
- Did you feel comfortable talking to this therapist?
- Were you able to say what you wanted to say?
- Were you able to be yourself?
- Did you feel a need to hide anything?
- Were you honest?
- Did the therapist convey a feeling of personal warmth?
- Did the therapist seem to have a sense of humour?
- Was he or she overly serious?
- Did you get a feeling this person was wise? Knowledgeable?
- Was he or she able to go past theories and understand the nature of the world?
- Did he or she convey an interest in you and your reasons for being in his or her office?
- Did the therapist make eye contact with you? Was that comfortable for you?
- Did you get any feedback from the therapist? Was it helpful? Insightful?
- Did you come away with any greater understanding of yourself than you had before the first meeting?
- Did you disagree with the therapist at any point? How did that go? Was the therapist defensive and go to sleep?
- Could he or she disagree with you in a comfortable manner?
- Do you look forward to talking with the therapist again?