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Ronna. 21. Misrepresenting Poland in London since 2006. Currently in Bristol. I'm crazy about this girl & I take pictures.
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01 June

I need to vent.

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24 May


Night after the Courtney Love concert me, Bella, Jenn and Ronna all got matching Hole symbol tattoos, we figured because we were medium wasted and Ronna had never done stick-n-pokes before it would be totally fine, and it was.

It’s totally fine you guys I got this

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21 May
Pre-Courtney shenanigans! Stealing pictures from Josie because smartphones and our “PROFESSIONAL CAMERAS” got taken off us. 

Pre-Courtney shenanigans! Stealing pictures from Josie because smartphones and our “PROFESSIONAL CAMERAS” got taken off us.


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25 March
Constance And Eric Redefine Sexy In Their Intimate Photographs Of Couples

Constance and Eric photographyConstance & Eric are a married couple from Brooklyn who have carved a niche and figured out how to make a living taking pictures of people having sex. Blurring the lines between high art and commercial photography, the duo have … Continue reading

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27 February



Average size mannequin with average size woman.

The problem, in one picture.

I never realized until seeing this picture that my interpretation of an average size woman has become REALLY SKEWED oh my god I wanna cry




Average size mannequin with average size woman.

The problem, in one picture.

I never realized until seeing this picture that my interpretation of an average size woman has become REALLY SKEWED oh my god I wanna cry

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27 February

Some previews from today’s shoot.

MUA/Hairstylist: Gemma | The White Rabbit MUA
Photographer: myself

Anyone local to Bristol or London, word up! I’m always looking for more people to work with. 

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26 February


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24 February


do u ever start typing a text post and think “wow just shut the fuck up” to yourself

every time

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24 February
— Questions To Ask Your Prospective Therapist (LGBT+ inclusive)

Found this while looking for a shrink - it could be expanded on the gender front, but hope it’s at least a good starting point for someone!

The therapist may not always answer the question, but you will get a sense of how they respond to you, even if you don’t get a direct answer.

Adapted from It’s Your Hour: a guide to queer-affirmative psychotherapy by Bettinger, M. Alyson Books, 2001.

Attitude Toward Queerness

  • Do you believe in love between two people of the same sex?
  • Do you believe that sexual orientation can or should be changed?
  • Do you believe an openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender person can live a spiritually rich and satisfying life?
  • Do you know of any happy and successful long-term same sex couples?
  • How do you generally work with gay or lesbian people?
  • What work have you done to understand your own anti-homosexual bias?


  • What has been your training?
  • What qualifications have you been awarded?
  • What postgraduate training programmes have you completed?
  • What specific training have you done to work with sexual minority clients?
  • What reading have you done about gay psychology/therapy?
  • When did you last attend a workshop/seminar on working with sexual minority clients?


  • How long have you been practising counselling or psychotherapy?
  • Where else have you worked besides your present position?
  • What jobs or careers have you had besides being a therapist?
  • What non-professional experiences have you had to qualify you for the work you are now doing?

Credentials and Professional Orientation

  • Are you a member of any professional organisations?
  • Which ones?
  • Are you Accredited or Registered by any professional therapy associations?
  • Have any complaints been filed against you with any professional ethics organisation?
  • How do you describe your professional orientation to therapy?
  • Which of the major schools of psychotherapy are the most attractive to you?


  • Have you treated other people with problems similar to mine?
  • How do you determine how often we should meet?
  • Can you prescribe psychoactive medications if I need them?
  • If not, do you work with a physician or a psychiatrist who can evaluate me and prescribed medication?
  • Are you willing to consult with other mental health or medical professionals with whom I have worked?
  • Do you consult with other professionals regarding individuals on your caseload?
  • How do you safeguard my right to confidentiality in those situations?
  • Are you willing or able to see my family members or life partner if that should seem necessary?
  • If so, can or should I be present?
  • Will you ever meet with them without my being present?
  • Have you ever been sued for malpractice?
  • What was the outcome of that lawsuit?

Business Practices

  • What is your fee?
  • Is there a sliding scale?
  • If there is a sliding scale, how does it work?
  • Are you able to accept medical insurance?
  • How do you handle the paperwork?
  • Do you, or do I, have to fill out the paperwork?
  • What is your telephone availability?
  • Do you encourage or discourage telephone contact between meetings?


  • Do you personally identify as queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or questioning?
  • Do you identify as being clean and sober?
  • If so, are you in recovery?
  • Do you attend any 12-step groups?
  • What is your personal experience as a client in psychotherapy?
  • How do you feel it benefited you?

Comfort and Chemistry (questions to ask yourself after the initial meeting)

  • Did you feel understood?
  • Did the therapist understand your reason for being there?
  • Did you feel liked by the therapist?
  • Did you like the therapist?
  • Did you like his or her values?
  • Did you agree with them?
  • Did you have an initial feeling of trust in the therapist?
  • Did the therapist appear to be sensitive to your feelings?
  • Did you feel respected by the therapist?
  • Did you feel he or she was treating you as an equal?
  • Did you feel comfortable talking to this therapist?
  • Were you able to say what you wanted to say?
  • Were you able to be yourself?
  • Did you feel a need to hide anything?
  • Were you honest?
  • Did the therapist convey a feeling of personal warmth?
  • Did the therapist seem to have a sense of humour?
  • Was he or she overly serious?
  • Did you get a feeling this person was wise? Knowledgeable?
  • Was he or she able to go past theories and understand the nature of the world?
  • Did he or she convey an interest in you and your reasons for being in his or her office?
  • Did the therapist make eye contact with you? Was that comfortable for you?
  • Did you get any feedback from the therapist? Was it helpful? Insightful?
  • Did you come away with any greater understanding of yourself than you had before the first meeting?
  • Did you disagree with the therapist at any point? How did that go? Was the therapist defensive and go to sleep?
  • Could he or she disagree with you in a comfortable manner?
  • Do you look forward to talking with the therapist again?
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24 February
— 16 ways to talk about consent
1. "Do you like when I...?"
2. "I like when you..."
3. "Will you...?"
4. "How does this feel?"
5. "Do you want me to...?"
6. "Do you want to...?"
7. "Is there anything you want to try?"
8. "Show me what you like."
9. "Do you want to go further?"
10. "Do you want to stop?"
11. "Can I...?"
12. "Does this feel good?"
13. "Are you happy?"
14. "Are you comfortable?"
15. "Are you having a good time?"
16. "Is this good for you?"
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24 February
— The Time I Violated my Girlfriend’s Consent


I posted this on Fetlife a few days ago (one of the rare times I wrote something long there instead of here), and am cross-posting it by request so that it will be shareable for folks not on FL.


We were 16. We’d been dating for a few weeks. I was SO enamored of her.

We were alone together in her room for the first time. We started kissing. I was excited. She looked nervous. I thought she was just shy. I thought that she must want this as much as I did, but just had less experience and didn’t know where to start. I took her hands and placed them on my breasts. And then I kept going. I made all the moves. It stayed mostly above the waist. At some point we had to stop for some reason — I think maybe it was just time for me to go, I don’t really remember — and we stopped.

I had a bounce in my step the next day. We’d shared something special! I couldn’t wait to do it again. And then she confessed to me that she hadn’t wanted it. That I’d pushed her way past what she was comfortable with, and she hadn’t known how to say no.

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24 February


Curse you third person

I love this exchange. If anyone wants to watch it because it’s amazing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wW92q0MFTfs

(Source: lilyspring)

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24 February
— So I’m trying to find a (queer friendly) therapist.


  • what exactly do you mean by “sex therapy”
  • what the fuck is this and why is it in your profile
  • why
  • I also receive referrals from The Jeremy Kyle show.”
  • I also offer ongoing therapy for counselling students in training at a reduced fee.” 
  • Counselling acts like a conductor, bringing different musicians together in an orchestra.”
  • "I also work with Boarding School Syndrome - a set of learned behaviours, defences and discontents that follow growing up in boarding school.” 
  • Apparently they like Ikea chairs. I have this Ikea chair. The therapist it didn’t work out with also had them. They all fucking have those chairs.
  • This is the picture you choose to use for your profile?
  • "Be the change that you want to see. " Gandhi (at least quote it right)
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23 February
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22 February


Project for my Social Psych class last semester. This poster series was created to 1) challenge these internalized stereotypes by bringing them to the viewer’s attention and 2) expand the range of role models by including a diverse group of women. Each poster follows the same basic pattern: a woman who has demonstrated her competency in a particular area refutes the stereotype that appears above her in the form of “Girls can’t …”. While the posters target girls ranging from children to young adults, I expect the message would also cause people outside that demographic to question their own beliefs about women and power.  I designed each aspect of the posters with several principles of social psychology in mind:

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